Updated: Mar 9
Just as exercise improves energy levels, your mood and your circulation, so does orgasm. Because we have lived in a patriarchal system for such a long time, there are many misconceptions surrounding the female orgasm and female pleasure from sex.
Fortunately, that is changing, and I'm on a mission to drive that change, banish the misconceptions, to highlight the many benefits of female orgasm and importantly, to help women overcome self-doubt and benefit from increased awareness of female orgasm.
Some of the misconceptions include:
A woman's orgasm is only real from penetrative sex
Women cannot orgasm from vaginal sex only
Women have to love their sexual partner to orgasm
A man can always tell if a woman has had an orgasm
Women who don’t orgasm must have something wrong
Let's tackle the first two together. The clitoris is the only organ solely there for the purpose of pleasure. Many women experience fabulous orgasms from clitoral stimulation, many from combined penetration and clitoral stimulation, while some enjoy orgasms from vaginal penetration.
You do not have to be in love with your sexual partner or anyone to experience orgasm. Orgasm is a mind-body experience, but you don't have to be in love to experience orgasm.
Whilst you should never fake orgasm, most men don’t know if you’ve orgasmed or not unless you tell them.
Women who don't orgasm may have some sort of sexual hangup, have had a poor experience or one of the many other sexual issues that I help women with every day. If you don't orgasm, it does not mean something is wrong with you. In many cases, you only need to learn more about the experience, to relax and to overcome any limiting beliefs that you have acquired.
Of course, you may have heard of other misconceptions. I'm sure there are more. Many come from a place of ignorance, prejudice or male arrogance.
Solution focussed hypnotherapy helps women to gain confidence in the bedroom. Regular orgasms benefit women in so many ways beyond self empowerment.
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