Hypnotherapy For Fertility

Infertility is psychologically very hard. When I talk to my clients about it so many of them say “after a long time trying, doing all the right things it gets harder and harder to pick ourselves up, dust themselves off and begin the process again”. Frequently, by the time someone seeks hypnotherapy they’ve been on that treadmill for a while.

The problem is that the hole left by not having a baby dominates all areas of their life. Focussing on the lack of a baby to cherish and see grow into a child is unhealthy. That doesn’t mean it is something that someone can simply shake off. It becomes all encompassing, even obsessive with things like ovulation charts and taking temperatures dominating someone’s life far more than it should.

Couples who cannot conceive should have all the necessary medical tests and when tests show there is no medical reason or a medical reason is “fixed” then the anxiety begins all over again within a couple of months of them not being able to have the longed for baby.

Couples undergo what they say is all the invasive prodding, poking and soul baring to different health specialists, sometimes only to be told that there is no clinical reason for their infertility. Some decide to go forward to the IVF route either via the NHS or privately. Then when that doesn’t work either, some say they cannot take anymore. Often the problem is the learned mindset of not being able to conceive.

Some women in the position cut themselves off from friends, they certainly don’t mix with friends who have babies, it becomes a very dark and lonely place to be. Others will do the opposite and say they detour on walks to pass a children’s playground and look longingly at the babies and toddlers. Then there are those who spend as much time as they can with other peoples babies. They say, they try and satisfy their need by loving the baby, but going home or when they get home they frequently have a cry and dip into that pit of desperation again.

Infertility is a very lonely place to be, trapped in the cycle of hope and desperation, trying and disappointment. It’s not usual for the despair felt when trying to conceive to lead to physical pain and anxiety in other situations, due to the mind-body connection.

Couples waiting for IVF develop some hope, but it’s tinged by the “what if it doesn’t work” and other negative thoughts and feelings of loss and desperation.

I understand all of that and I’m delighted to say I can help.

When someone first contacts me about an appointment to do with infertility, I always find out what stage they are at and what options they are considering. I always tailor every hypnotherapy course to the individual anyway. It’s never a one size fits all. I hope they don’t feel like I’m yet another professional asking all these questions and then not being able to help. Because I can help. I really like to understand the situation as fully as possible and help people at various stages of their attempts at pregnancy. I use slightly different techniques to help different clients and work with them to get through their situation.

Because hypnotherapy is non-intrusive and there are no side effects, clients soon start to relax when they discover what our sessions involve. Trying to conceive when in a state of anxiety or desperation, very rarely succeeds, whatever the initial underlying “cause”. By learning to relax and using the techniques I provide they become optimally fertile. Hypnotherapy helps by giving the techniques to relax going into IVF treatments or for those who think they’ve tried all they can.

Hopefully, as the mind-body connection becomes recognised by more healthcare professionals, so hypnotherapy will be started sooner in more cases, saving some people months or even years of what feels like inescapable anguish.